The Relationship Thread

[Dro]

Yea, it was bound to happen.

So here you can let out your frustration or talk about how awesome your partner (or past partner) was.

So to kick things off, I recently been going out with a girl and I'm kinda new at this stuff. Sure people have been interested in me but I never did anything about it because most women at my school are Jersey Shore wannabes. Now that I found someone totally awesome I'm kinda scared Ill ruin it even though I know she likes me.

[andy089]

My girlfriend and me have our first anniversary on the 9th and I am really looking forward to it. I honestly have never been as happy as I am with her. She's the best thing that has ever happened in my life =)

[Loplod]

I spent my whole life trying to be what a woman would want.

I worked out and got fit, I read books and other literature, I do many activities and hobbies that make an interesting person, I volunteer about 6-10 hours a week for fun. I work 2 jobs and am set for cash easy. I am well groomed all the time (and I dress nice) and I'm a good looking guy (9/10). I'm extroverted, Funny, Great confidence and public speaking, help anyone out whenever they ask etc etc. I pretty much became the perfect 10/10

hooking up? No problem, easy as mate I can do that any time I want no dramas, even pulled a few lesbians in my time.

try and get in a relationship? I have had LITERALLY 12 girls tell me "I am too good for them" or that "I feel like you're above me I could never date you" and things like "I would just feel bad, I'm trash and you're amazing" and stuff like that.. EVERY. DANG. TIME.

So yeah, single for a long time because I can't find a girl with high enough self esteem to date me. Which just really.. really sucks. When I do find a girl though, who's put as much effort into herself as I have into myself.. That will be great for sure

#Firstworldproblems
#Really not that bad though

Tl;dr, Women tell me I am too good for them it sucks being a 10/10.

[Lanesend]

^ That's funny. It sucks being a 10/10. Not nice for you, though.

I know of a saying that might help: "Don't be interesting. Be interested"

Myself, I've had a lot of (good and bad) relationships. After my last girlfriend, I said I would never start a serious relationship again. The reason was that me and my ex almost killed each other in the end. Literally. I still have a 3 centimeter wide scar from a kitchen knife in my neck.

And you know what? After I stopped looking for a partner, I got re-aquinted with a childhood sweethart from almost 20 years ago, and we've been together for 7 years now.

In my experience, trying very hard to find a partner doesn't work that well. You have to meet someone by accident. But if you meet that person, you do everything you can to keep him/her.

Also listening to advice from friends is often a bad idea (depends on the friendship of course). Because jealousy can get in the way.

[l0rdf1end]

Some good advice Lanesend, trying too hard doesn't work and it really shows.

My Partner does my head in some days but love trumps that plus we have a beautiful daughter.
Relationships are hard work but sometimnes they are worth fighting for.

[evilfighta]

What is there to say... I find it easy to speak to people, and generally I find it easy to get new friends... But when I see a cute girl, I get really shy. Damn it's annoying!

[robomummy]

Now this is something I have a hard time with. Relationships are not one of my stong points. Sure I have alot of girls who are freinds but arent interested in a relationship or are already in one which is ok but sometimes frustrating. I have had one gilrfreind for a couple months a few years ago who ended up going out with another guy and after i found out i broke up with her. though we were still friends for awhile until we lost contact when I left home. the problem for me with meeting people is that i dont really trust new people alot and im not the most social person (in fact the only time i leave my room is to go to class and eat because i a swamped with work) so there isnt alot of opportunity to meet people. That and I am very awkward when asking people out so relationships for me dont look like they are going to happen anytime soon.

[Hive Carnithrope]

Eh, before June, I thought I wasn't going to get a serious girlfriend until at least Uni, and that I'd be forever alone!!!

BUT, that all changed when I met her. It was a weird way of meeting, on FB, in weird circumstances, and at first, I found her very strange and we had little in common.

But as the months went by, we talked more and more and met up a few times, which was fun. Tbh, at first, it was more about the physical side of things than actual relationship-stuff but she grew on me, and I worked out that I loved her.

Steadily going for three months 'officially' (as in announced on FB) but we've realised it's been a lot longer than that.

[KrakenGenesi]

I was meant to get married on the 8th August this year. Had the deposit down on the Sandbanks hotel - invitations, menu, favors etcetc were all ready. She left me...a note and that was that. Worst thing that has ever happened to me, cant even begin to describe the conflicting emotions....I would rather be chewed on by a horny hippo....I was with her for 6 years.

I have learnt that relationships are not something you can force. Go about your life being you, don't try to change who you are. I don't believe that anyone should actively search for the right women - it will just happen one day, don't fret if your single...but most importantly:

DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING FOR GRANTED!

[Captain Malachi]

I have a lot of the same problems as Robo, mainly crippling shyness and lack of trust. I tend to always be convinced the worst possible outcome is the only one, so even though most girls are perfectly nice and might even like me a bit, I always think that any girl I talk to will be the alpha (please do not swear) and laugh in my face.

Though I'd probably have a much better chance of meeting a girl if I, you know, actually left the house occasionally. Oh well. Life goes on.

/shrug



I just realised this is probably the only mildly personal thing I've posted on a forum in months. Huh. Well, that's the hive for ya, can't trust people in real life but random people I've never met on the internet is fine. Sorry, I'm rambling, bye.

[Dro]

I was shy before, but I just started focusing on taking care of myself and just having fun outside of school. If you do that, "interested parties" so to speak will come.

[Lanesend]

@ KrakenGenesi,
A note..? After 6 years? And you were about to get married???

Damn, I really feel bad for you, man.

[Illithid]

Getting married to my girlfriend of 5 years next April. She is smart, beautiful (she is a Physical Chemist and a Nanotechnologist) and maybe one of the only people in the world that truly understands me.

I have had many relationships and some of them were fairly (please do not swear) up... just do not get jaded.

And it isn't hard to be a 10/10, you just have to find another 10/10 ;p

[infornography]

I have spent the vast majority of my life single. I can count the number of relationships I have had on one hand. Coincidentally I can also count the number of weeks that my longest relationship before my current one lasted on one hand.

I had pretty much given up and out of the blue I got a message on I one of the dating sites I had long since quit visiting She seemed interesting and interested. Chatted with her for a while, went on a date... but it didn't work out. Then another message from some one on the same site. This one was definitely my type of person. Very geeky and nerdy. Smart and witty. Now I have been with her for about a year and a half with not a single fight, hardly any differences of opinion at all, and a whole lot of open honesty. We fit together very much in they way they always say you are supposed to. We both maintain close monitoring on our own emotions and thoughts so we know when we are feeling irrational before we take it out on each other. I am fairly certain that this is the one for me.

I have to say, this relationship isn't hard or difficult. It doesn't take hard work. It is just happy and comfortable. And that is the way I like it.

[N.I.B.]

Men usually overestimate how attractive they are in the eyes of members of the opposite sex.
Women usually underestimate how attractive they are in the eyes of members of the opposite sex.

Just throwing it out there.