Post by commandersasha on Sept 14, 2010 9:16:30 GMT
Speaking as a married man of 12 years aged 39, with 3 long relationships and ~5 short ones behind me , the advice I will be giving my son is:
1) Your first kiss is not the most important kiss of your life. It's just a kiss. Enjoy it. If she is destined to be your one and only life partner (unlikely, unless you are really naive and easily satisfed), a bad kiss isn't going to put her off, and a good one isn't going to clinch the deal.
2) Very few girls like to be bullied or dominated (we'll cover that later..!), so no girl who is looking for a relationship is going to be put off by you being too gentle.
3) If it all goes well, the first few kisses will develop into a pattern, and you will have no problem learning how gentle, greedy, tongue-y or bitey she likes it. This is not a subject you need to be taught, the best way to learn is practice and self-educating!
4) Kissing is tactile, and not just about the lips; gently cradle her neck or hair with one hand, not so she can't get away, but so she feels that you're paying attention to more than just her lips. Also helps you to judge distance, avoiding teeth clacking!
(I once first kissed a girl on a train, I hadn't summoned the courage to, but she in initiated as I got up to get off the train; the train braked, I overbalanced, and headbutted her whilst carrying a big rucsac. Split her lip! We're still good friends 20 years later!)
Personally, I don't believe in saving yourself for that special someone; when that special someone comes along, the pressure of your first kiss with her will be compounded by your inexperience. If you were in a gaming store, and Robin Williams walks in with his Eldar looking for a pickup game, wouldn't you be glad you'd been playing for a few years?!
Don't break any hearts, but have some fun, learn about gurlz, and about yourself, before you start committing yourself too seriously. My first date, my first kiss, my first 'partner' and my first love are all still friends of mine, and my wife is none of them.
Oh, and no onions! Enjoy xx
1) Your first kiss is not the most important kiss of your life. It's just a kiss. Enjoy it. If she is destined to be your one and only life partner (unlikely, unless you are really naive and easily satisfed), a bad kiss isn't going to put her off, and a good one isn't going to clinch the deal.
2) Very few girls like to be bullied or dominated (we'll cover that later..!), so no girl who is looking for a relationship is going to be put off by you being too gentle.
3) If it all goes well, the first few kisses will develop into a pattern, and you will have no problem learning how gentle, greedy, tongue-y or bitey she likes it. This is not a subject you need to be taught, the best way to learn is practice and self-educating!
4) Kissing is tactile, and not just about the lips; gently cradle her neck or hair with one hand, not so she can't get away, but so she feels that you're paying attention to more than just her lips. Also helps you to judge distance, avoiding teeth clacking!
(I once first kissed a girl on a train, I hadn't summoned the courage to, but she in initiated as I got up to get off the train; the train braked, I overbalanced, and headbutted her whilst carrying a big rucsac. Split her lip! We're still good friends 20 years later!)
Personally, I don't believe in saving yourself for that special someone; when that special someone comes along, the pressure of your first kiss with her will be compounded by your inexperience. If you were in a gaming store, and Robin Williams walks in with his Eldar looking for a pickup game, wouldn't you be glad you'd been playing for a few years?!
Don't break any hearts, but have some fun, learn about gurlz, and about yourself, before you start committing yourself too seriously. My first date, my first kiss, my first 'partner' and my first love are all still friends of mine, and my wife is none of them.
Oh, and no onions! Enjoy xx
